Do you sometimes see yourself in the mirror and wonder where the years went? Like many people, most of the time, I don’t consider my age to relevant, and I generally avoid mirrors wherever is possible! I am sure that you, like me, have gained many life & work experiences that make you who you are today and also developed a great skill set. What happens when you start to feel that you are no longer satisfied with your direction, or maybe worse still, someone else decides that for you? Does your age suddenly become relevant then? This is what happened to me and also many of my coaching clients are dealing with career and life change.
At the end of July 2015, we experienced an extraordinary event ‘a blue moon’? A blue moon is when a full moon occurs for the second time in a calendar month and is a rare occurrence. On the tube my way into work that day, I read sceptically in the daily newspaper about this event and how it is a road opener, helping to forge a new path ahead of great change and moves you out of your comfort zone
On that day, it is not overstating it, to say that my life changed. Within 6 months, I had been made redundant and joined the growing numbers of mid-life individuals who are establishing their own business. And I love it!
Yes, the reaction of some people has been surprising. Those who might have considered me making a change, thought that I would move onto another leadership role in a different, maybe even competitor, organisation.
I don’t think anyone who knows me would be surprised that I didn’t consider early retirement or a part-time role. Don’t get me wrong, both are great options for those who feel that it is the right move for them but it is not for me, yet. I have a lot to contribute and plenty of energy to make my dream business happen!
Whilst working full time, I had been investing in developing my coaching expertise and had found the reading and writing of the papers stretching. However, most of all I had found, or maybe rediscovered, my passion for supporting others and the satisfaction I get from having a positive impact on others lives.
So what have I learnt in my first 6 months in business? I have learnt many things about myself, about setting up companies, about marketing, websites, contracts and social media! I have also joined some wonderful communities of fellow micro business owners, who support each other in our endeavours to create viable businesses. And I am working with some amazing coaching clients who are committed to changing their lives for the better.
5 Top Tips if you need to make a big change in your work life
If this resonates with you then here are my 5 top tips. Especially if you are facing redundancy or need to make a big change in your work life.
- Don’t make rash decisions. There is a wonderful big world out there and you may think that you have waited too long already to make the change but don’t rush. Make sure you consider all the options. You might want to use a tool like Force Field Analysis to help you think through both the driving forces that are pushing for the change and the restraining forces (what is holding you back). If you would like a free copy of this tool then email me and I will happily forward you a copy
- Be clear on what you are passionate about. Everyone has something that they are passionate about. For me, it is supporting others to create the lives and businesses they desire. Being in touch with your powerful motivating force will help you get through the difficult times.
- Get some support. Hopefully, you have people who you can talk these things over with and will support you in your decision making. However, it is important to remember that your friends, partner, colleagues and family will all have their own viewpoint on what you should do and partly this may be driven by their own agenda.
- Be brave. Do you already know what you want to do but are afraid of taking the next step? Fear is a natural emotion to experience at times of change. However, what you want is on the other side of that fear. I use the analogy that fear is like a giant surfboard which I am riding to the beach, my dream destination! I may fall off a few times but ultimately I need to keep climbing back on and getting better and better at surfing the waves and then I will land safely on the beach.
- Enjoy the ride! I love the quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson ‘Life is a journey, not a destination’.
So here I am one year on from the blue moon. I am not really sure whether it played a part in my transition from employee to founder and owner of a micro business!
Am I am still dealing with the fear of creating my own future? Yes, of course, I am. Am I enjoying the ride? Bloody hell, YES!
If you are rethinking your career options or considering starting your own business and don’t know where to start and want a cheerleader, someone to challenge you and hold you accountable then contact me.
Don’t wait for a blue moon though, as there won’t be another one until 2018!
I would love to hear your thoughts on the above and how you are dealing with the changes you’re facing. If you need support with making a change then email.
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